The Definition of Grief
Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list may also include many others: retirement, moving, pet loss, financial and health issues to mention a few.
The range of emotions associated with grief are as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions much less those of an entire society.
Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feeling and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or other reasons.
The Problem of Grief
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual.
The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid.
- Time Heals All Wounds
- Grieve Alone
- Be Strong
- Don’t Feel Bad
- Replace the Loss
- Keep Busy
The Solution to Grief